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The Right Way to Positive Thinking Positive thinking has been stressed way too much already but life can actually give anyone a beat-down anytime, so I suppose it will never hurt being prepared by taking this kind of mindset. Thinking positively, yet being realistic enough is an excellent way of coping with the different tribulations that life can give you. The point is, positive thinking will never make you the greatest person ever, but it sure is even better than just immersing yourself with loads of negative thoughts and emotions . Negative thinking puts a clout over what you can do and it makes you lose even before the fight begins. Sometimes, all it takes to accomplish something is the mental toughness that positive thinking brings and believe it or not, this isn’t too hard to do. Here are the steps to achieve positive thinking. 1.Detach Yourself Most people tend to bury themselves into the situation even before they stop and assess what needs to be done. Remember that the best way to solve a problem and get out of it alive is to be calm enough while being rational about it. If the bank that you are indebted to is threatening to file a suit against you, don’t cry like a child, but instead sit down like a man. List down the best possible way of circumventing the problem and make the necessary steps to prevent the problem from further escalating. 2.It is Never a Trend People tend to think that they’re into a streak of bad experiences that just does not stop. To get out of that mental loop, think that it’s just an aberration rather than a rule. If you flunked at something in the past, it does not have any connection with the next job interview or the next business venture that you will be taking. Unless you don’t prepare and think positive enough, you’re definitely on your way to failure. However, you also need to be realistic when it comes to your goals. There’s a fine line between being delusional and rational. 3.Deal with it Oftentimes, negative thinking is brought about by past failures that accumulated all the negative thoughts that we harbor. Unless we start accepting our mistakes, it will be hard for us to look ahead without any unconstructive emotions. For instance, even if you have already failed in several businesses; it makes sense that you downplay your chances but thinking that it will all be the same thing waiting to happen is simply pathetic and illogical. The mind of the positive thinker knows that not everything will go his or her way, but whatever bumps and bruises that he or she receives will just be learning opportunities to be exploited. By being positive means that you are hoping for the best, but realistic enough to step back a little bit and not expecting everything to go according to plan. The past has an ugly way of repeating itself, but by thinking positively, you already won half of the battle. 4.Don’t be Delusional It’s already a massive step that you are able to think positively. However, having too much of it that it’s no longer believable will surely intoxicate anyone. Have that quiet confidence and belief that you can pull it off. Also, it’s not enough to simply have the mental toughness that you need. You also need to prepare while studying the tactics of your opponents. Know their tendencies and their strategies while keeping them very near. For instance, if you’re about to make a presentation that can make or break your career’s future, be sure you have prepared for it a lot. That means, doing your homework while having all the guts and not to mention skills to pull off the presentation.

When I graduated, I thought I already have what it takes to take on the real world. However, when I was offered my first real job; it was entirely different. Not only did I end up depressed but unfortunately, I was earning way below than what I thought I should be getting. On a different note, there’s no doubt that I learned a lot in school but there are certain things that I wish my teachers taught because they could have helped a lot. The truth is, I’ve learned more and matured more when I was out of school than when I was in it. Also, I thought I could have enjoyed school if I took the course that really interests me and that could have been either Anthropology or Psychology. Here are some things that I think should have been taught in school: Lesson no. 1 Networking It’s amazing how many people don’t know how to network. People are social creatures and it’s natural for them to seek other people as much as possible, especially when push comes to shove. Networking is used by almost every successful man and the truth is you don’t have to be born with it because you can definitely learn how to do it. Actually, some successful people didn’t even have to get high grades, they just know how and who to network that’s why they are where they are right now. Lesson no. 2 Speed Reading I like reading for the simple fact that it gives me a lot of knowledge that I can chew on. However, one thing that I really regret is I never really learned how to speed read. Just imagine how many additional books, newspapers, and even internet articles I could have devoured had I learned how to do this skill. Lesson no. 3 Setting Goals Organizing is extremely important these days and I am not even surprised when excellent multi-tasking people excel. These days, there are just too many stimuli that it’s hard to organize things and set goals everyday. But I really do think that if you’ve learned how to separate the urgent from the not-so-urgent, things would be a lot easier. Lesson no. 4 Office Politics I suppose every fresh graduate is befuddled when they realize that the workplace is so damn different from school and a case in point is the presence of office politics. I’ve never encountered any classes that offered lessons in office politics and if there were any, I bet most fresh graduates wouldn’t have such a difficult time adjusting with the transition from school to work. Lesson no. 5 The Art of Negotiation I learned how to negotiate my salary through the internet and without a doubt, it worked to my advantage. The thing is negotiating is life’s staple and whether we like it or not, we need to be able to learn how to work with other people to get something done and that involves tons of negotiating. Most successful people end up on top of the chain because they can make a one-sided deal look like a fair one because of their skills. Lesson no. 6 Saving I never met one teacher of mine tell me that it’s important to save and the good thing is that my mother is the first one to tell me how significant it is. Most schools teach you how to become part of the corporate world by training you on a specific industry, but few will tell you how not to be part of a 9-5 job while still earning enough money. I’m not saying that the school system is flawed, but to think that everything is there already that you need in life is simply absurd. There are certain fundamental lessons that I think every school should teach and

It’s always been a common and often not to pretty sight when people just lose their wits and get overtaken by their emotions. Anger can destroy reputation, lead to bad decisions, and more importantly result to regret. We all have to accept the fact that life is and will never be perfect and that’s one of first steps in controlling your rage. The thing is anger shows the worst part of us and controlling anger doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be a pushover. It only means that controlling it in a way that you’ll be able to handle the situation in a more calm and relaxed manner. Here’s how. Anger Type no. 1 Sometimes, we get really mad in a situation when we get cornered like a poor little dog. For instance, when someone criticizes our work, habits, and performance we get too sensitive like a little child who goes to his mommy. The secret in handling this situation is to take it like a man, detach yourself from the situation, and contemplate a well-organized explanation. Always be calm and mindful of the things that you say especially to somebody like your boss because performance criticisms are never personal. If it’s a proper criticism, take it and work on improvement. However, if it’s something below the belt, let the pain fade away first before responding in a proper yet ball-smashing comeback 2.Anger Type no. 2 Sometimes we feel the urge to just lash out and say what we want because it’s a natural instinct and it feels good. The problem is it will never solve the situation, you’ve just escalated it by losing control. To combat this problem, breathe for 10 seconds and focus on good things or experiences. In short just space out because your brain will automatically direct to the more rational side and it’ll save you from a few expletives thrown here and there. 3.Anger Type no. 3 Another type of anger that most men experience is when they tend to redirect their anger and frustrations to something else. For instance, the triggers are incompetent coworkers, in-laws, and stupid traffic laws that can really affect some people. Believe it or not, some men would resort to drinking or be angry to other people when they can’t handle the situation. The thing is redirecting your anger not only makes it worse but it gets bigger by not facing it face-first. The thing about anger is that you’ll only be affected by it when you’ve been threatened, otherwise, there’s really nothing to it. Calm down, sit down, and plot about what you’re supposed to do in a composed and controlled state. Anger Type no. 4 I know someone who gets angry without any reason whatsoever. She’ll rant about what pisses her off and the sad part is that she needs someone who needs to absorb all that negative energy to maker her feel better. The thing is chronic and recurring anger is just a façade to hide something that is more serious such as depression that is bothering the person. To combat this, you should be able to talk to a professional so that it can be properly remedied. Moreover, it is best that you do something different that will make you feel better like pursuing a new hobby, learning something new, and many others. Anger should never consume every inch of you and you feel like losing control, always remember that the best guys are either lucky or have nerves of steel when dealing in this kinds of situations.